What Does "Remaining in Control" Mean to You? | SBH Coaching

Remaining “In Control”: What Does It Mean to You?

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It is human nature to want to remain “in control” of our own lives and destinies. We want to hold on to our personal power. Who we interact with, how we interact, and what, how, and when we choose to do and not do what we want, are all functions of choice and free will.

Maintaining Control

Control is a hot-button word, especially during a divorce. One party usually has an interest in maintaining control over the other. When someone attempts to control us, we end up feeling helpless and hopeless. But when we are aware of the attempt to control, we have a choice. We don’t have to allow it. We can resist and we can prevail.

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Last week I shared this quote from Maya Angelou:

“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.”

Choosing Our Response

Our strength and resilience help us withstand the difficult times, especially those we aren’t responsible for. How we respond to life’s events gives us back our control. We get to choose our response, and doing so with dignity and grace is what defines us.

As you navigate your divorce, choose your responses and maintain your personal control. You don’t have to do it alone. Let’s put support structures in place, and create goals and a plan just for you. I’m ready to help!


Sandra Hughes

Sandra Hughes, MBA CPCC is a mentor and business strategist who is about one thing: elevating people to their full potential. Before starting her own business, over 30 years she held several management positions and was at Gap for 12 years — at one point becoming a Senior Real Estate Executive within the international division. Now, she helps professionals, entrepreneurs, freelancers, and consultants realign their lives in order to maximize their talent, reflect their values, and achieve the income they need to live and retire comfortably.